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你会怎么做?请你作出你的选择,这不是什么机智问答。总之读下去,我的问题是:你会作出同样的选择吗?
 
在一个学习迟缓儿童学校的募款餐会上,在场的所有人永远忘不了其中一个学生的父亲所说的话。
 
在推祟学校和教职员的付出和贡献后,这个家长问了一个问题:照理说在无外力干扰下,大自然所创造的一切都是完美的。但我的儿子,西恩,他无法像别的孩子一样的学习,他无法像别的孩子一样的理解事物。
 
在我孩子身上,大自然的法则何在?所有听众都哑口无言。
 
这个父亲继续说。我相信当像西恩这样有身体及心智残缺的孩子来到这个世界,是一个展现人类真实本性的机会。而这一次体现在别人如何对待这个孩子。接着,他说了下面这个故事:
 
西恩在一个公园,里面有些西恩所认识的男孩正在玩棒球。西恩问我:“你想他们会让我一起玩吗?”我知道大部份的孩子不会想要有西恩这样的孩子在自己的队上,但身为一个父亲我同时也知道若他们能让我儿子参加,这会让他得到他所迫切需要的归属感并建立起自己虽然是残障仍能被接受的信心。
 
我走近一个男童(不抱太大希望的)问他西恩可否参加,他看看周围的队友然后说:“我们输了6分而现在正在第8局上,我想他可以参加我们的队,我们会在第9局设法让他上场打击。”
 
西恩带着满脸的喜悦困难的走向他的球队的休息区,穿上该队的球衣,我悄悄的滴下眼泪而心中有满满的温暖。而那些男孩也看出了我对于儿子被接纳的喜悦。
 
在8局下,西恩的队追了上来,但仍然还输3分。第9局上半场,西恩戴上手套防守右外野,虽然没有球往他的位置飞来,但能在场上他已经很高兴了,我从看台上向他挥手他笑的合不拢嘴。
 
在9局下,西恩的球队又得分了。而此时,二出局满垒的状况,下一棒是球队逆转的机会,而西恩正是被排在这一棒。
 
在这个重要关头,他们会让西恩上场打击而放弃赢球的机会吗?让人惊奇的是他们真的把球棒交给了西恩,大家都知道西恩根本不可能打到球,因为他甚至不知道怎么握球棒更别谈碰到球了。
 
然而当西恩踏上打击位置,投手已经明白对手为了西恩生命中重要的这一刻放下赢球的机会,所以他往前走了几步投了一个很软的球给西
恩让他至少能碰一下。
 
第一球投出来,西恩笨拙的挥棒落空。投手又再往前走了几步投出一个软软的球给西恩。当球飞过来西恩挥棒打出一个慢速的滚地球,直直的滚向投手。球赛眼看就要结束。
 
投手捡起这软软的滚地球,就可轻易的把球传给一垒手让西恩出局而结束这场球赛。然而投手把球高高的传往一垒手的头顶上方通过,让他所有的队友都接不到。每个站在看台上的人不管是那一队的都开始喊着:“西恩,跑到一垒!跑到一垒!跑到一垒!”
 
西恩这辈子从来没有跑这么远过,但他还是努力跑到了一垒。他踩上垒包眼睛张的很大而且很惊喜。每个人都喊着说:“西恩,跑向二垒,跑向二垒!”!刚喘过气,西恩蹒跚的跑向二垒,很辛苦的往垒包跑。
 
这时,就在西恩往二垒跑时,右外野手拿到了球,这个全队最矮的小子第一次有了成为队上英雄的机会了。
 
他大可把球传向二垒,但这个全队最矮的小子了解投手的心意,所以他也把球故意高高传过三垒手的头顶过去。当前面的跑者往本垒跑时,西恩跌跌撞撞的往三垒跑。
 
大家都喊西恩,“跑向三垒,跑向三垒!跑下去,跑下去。”
 
西恩能到达三垒是因为对方的游击手跑来帮忙将他带往三垒的方向,而且喊着,“跑到三垒,西恩,跑到三垒。”
 
当西恩抵达三垒,双方的选手和所有的观众都站起来,高喊着:“西恩,全垒打!全垒打!”
 西恩跑回本垒踩上垒包时,大家为西恩大声喝采就如他打了一个大满贯并为全队赢的比赛的英雄般。
 
“那一天,”那个父亲两颊泪流满面轻柔的说,“两队的男孩子把真爱和人性的光辉带进了这个世界。”
 
西恩没能活到另一个夏天,他在那年的冬天过逝,但他从没忘记他曾经是个英雄而且让我那么高兴,以及他回家时看着妈妈流着泪拥着她的小英雄的那一天!
 


我们每天都有无数的机会可以协助去体现大自然的法则。很多人与人之间微不足道的互动都是一个选择的机会。到底我们是把爱和人性的光辉传递下去,或者放弃这些机会使得这世界一点点的更冷默。有个智者说过;要评价一个社会就要看这个社会如何去对待他们之中最不幸的人。
 
但愿你的每一天都是西恩日。
 
 
台湾作家龙应台说过:“如何衡量文明?我愿意跟大家分享我自己衡量文明的一把尺。它不太难。看一个城市的文明的程度,就看这个城市怎样对待它的精神病人,它对于残障者的服务做到什么地步,它对鳏寡孤独的照顾到什么程度,它怎样对待所谓的盲流民工底层人民。对我而言,这是非常具体的文明的尺度。” 

感恩的故事
一名成績優秀的青年去申請一個大公司的經理職位。
One young academically excellent person went to apply for a managerial position in a big company.
他通過了第一級的面試,董事長做最後的面試,做最後的決定。
He passed the first interview, the director did the last interview, made the last decision.
董事長從該青年的履歷上發現,該青年成績一 貫優秀,從中學到研究生從來沒有間斷過。
The director discovered from the CV, that the youths academic result is excellent all the way, from the secondary school until the postgraduate research, never has a year he did not score.
董事長問,你在學校裏拿到獎學金嗎?該青年回答,沒有。
The director asked, "Did you obtain any scholarship in school?" and the youth answered "none".
董事長問,是你的父親 為您付學費嗎?該青年回答,我父親在我一歲時就去世了,是我的母親給我付的學費。
The director asked, "Is it your father pay for your school fees?" the youth answered, my father passed away when I was one year old, it is my mother who paid for my school fees.
董事長問,那你的母親是在那家公司高就?該 青年回答,我的母親是給人洗衣服的。 董事長要求該青年把手伸給他,該青年把一雙潔白的手伸給董事長。
The director asked, " Where did your mother worked?" the youth answered, my mother worked as cloth cleaner. The director requested the youth to show his hand, the youth showed a pair of hand that is smooth and perfect to the director.
董事長問,你幫你母 親洗過衣服嗎?該青年回答,從來沒有,我媽總是要我多讀書,再說,母親洗衣服比我快得多。 
The director asked, "Did you ever help your mother washed the cloth before?" The youth answered, never, my mother always wanted me to study and read more books, furthermore, my mother can wash cloths faster than me.
董事長說,我有個要求,你今天回家,給你母 親洗一次雙手,明天上午你再來見我。
The director said, I had a request, when you go back today, go and help to clean your mothers hand, and then see me tomorrow morning.
該青年覺得自己成功的可能很大,回到家後,高高興興地要給母親洗手,母親受寵若驚地把手伸給孩子。
The youth felt that its chance of landing the job is high, when he went back, he happily wanted to clean his mothers hand, his mother feel strange, happy but mixed with fear, she showed her hand to the kid.
該 青年給母親洗著手,漸漸地,眼淚掉下來了,因為他第一次發現,他母親的雙手都是老繭,有個傷口在碰到水時還疼得發抖。
The youth cleaned his mothers hand slowly, his tear drop down as he did that.  It is first time he found his mothers hand is so wrinkled, and there are so many bruises in her hand. Some bruises incites pains so strong that shiver her mothers body when cleaned with water.
青年第一次體會到,母親就是 每天用這雙有傷口的手洗衣服為他付學費,母親的這雙手就是他今天畢業的代價。
This is the first time the youth realized and experienced that it is this pair of hand that washed the cloth everyday to earn him the school fees, the bruises in the mothers hand is the price that the mother paid for his graduation and academic excellence and probably his future.
該青年給母親洗完手後,一聲不響地把母親剩下要洗的衣服都洗了。
After finishing the cleaning of his mother hand, the youth quietly cleaned all remaining clothes for his mother.
當天晚上,母親和孩子聊了很久很久。
第二天早上,該青年去見董事長。
Next morning, the youth went to the directors office
董事長望著該青年紅腫的眼睛,問到,可以告訴我你昨天回家做了些什麼嗎?
The director noticed the tear in the youths eye, asked: "Can you tell you what have you done and learned yesterday in your house?"
該青年回答說,我給母親洗完手之後, 我幫母親把剩下的衣服都洗了。
The youth answered, "I cleaned my mothers hand, and also finished cleaning all the remaining clothes
董事長說,請你告訴我你的感受。
The director asked, "Please tell me your feeling."
該青年說,第一,我懂得了感恩,沒有我 母親,我不可能有今天。第二,我懂得了要去和母親一起勞動,才會知道母親的
第三,我懂得了家庭親情的可貴。
The youth said, Number 1, I knew what is appreciation, without my mother, there would not the successful me today. Number 2, I knew how to work together with my mother, then only I can realize how difficult and tough to get something done.  Number 3, I knew the importance and value of family relationship.
董事長說,我就是要錄取一個會感恩,會體會別人辛苦,不是把金錢當作人生第一目標的人來當經理。你被錄取了。
The director said, "This is what I am asking, I want to recruit a person that can appreciate the help of other, a person that knew the suffering of others to get thing done, and a person that would not put money as his only goal in life to be my manager. You are hired.
這位青年後來果真工作努力,深得職工擁護,員工也都努力工作,整個公司業績大幅成長。
Later on, this young person worked very hard, and received the respect of his subordinates, every employees worked diligently and in a team, the companys result improved tremendously.
假如一位孩子從小嬌生慣養,習 慣了被人圍著寵著,什麼都是“我”第一,父母的辛苦都不知道,上班後,以為同事都應該 他的,當了經理後,不知道員工的辛苦,還要怨天尤人。這樣的人,會有好的學校成績,會有得意風光的一時,但社會上的這類人,都不能成大事,都不會感覺到幸福,都要跌跟鬥,那父母是愛孩子呢還是害孩子呢?
A child who has been protected and habitually given whatever he did, he developed "entitlement mentality" and always put himself first. He is ignorance of his parents effort. When he started work, he assumed every people must listen to him, and when he became a manager, he would never know how suffering his employee and always blame others.  For this kind of people, he can have good result, may be successful for a while, but eventually would not feel sense of achievement, he will grumble and full of hatred and fight for more. If we are this kind of protective parent, did we love the kid or destroy the kid?
你可以讓你的孩子住大房子,吃大餐,學鋼琴,看大屏電視,但你在割草時,也要讓你的孩子在大太陽下拔拔野草,你在吃飯後,也要讓你的孩子洗洗碗,不是你沒有錢雇人,而是你真心愛孩子。你要讓孩子知道,即使父母掙不少錢,但早早的白髮,和那位洗衣服的母親沒有本質的差別。但更重要的是,要讓你的孩子學會感恩。
You can let your kid lived in a big house, eat a good meal, learn piano, watch a big screen TV. But when you are cutting
grass, please let them experienced it. After a meal, let them washed their plate and bowl together with their brothers and sisters. It is not because you do not have money to hire a maid, but it is because you want to love them in a right way.  You want them to understand, no matter how rich their parent are, one day their hair will grow gray, same as the mother of that young person. The most important thing is your kids learn how to appreciate the effort and experience the difficulty and learn the ability to work with others to get thing done.


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